It all depends I feel from where you came from. I came from a family that was really, really looked down on by the elders. My parents were a problem to everyone in the hall and I came out of them thus I was a problem no matter what I did.
I was stupid and thought if I tried hard enough by pioneering, by doing whatever was asked of me I could break through and be liked but I was so very, very wrong. Once you are on the wrong side of the tracks you can never be accepted. They will use you but they will not invite you into their homes. I got dumped on all the time by the elders before and after I was married to help those who were nut jobs in the hall, those the elders did not want to deal with and I did whatever was asked of me just to please them, but you can never please them and you can never break through to be accpepted to be invited and treated like a human, I was always scum.
When I was dating my husband who was an elder at the time, three elders called me into the back room alone my husband was in another hall while we were dating the elders drilled me about why I was dating and told me to break up with my husband because I would cause him to loose all of his privileges especially his being an elder. They never told me why or what was wrong with me that was so horrible that I should not date only that I had no place dating an elder.
After we were married I was NEVER ACCEPTED, never. Now after 25 years of marriage I wonder still what those elders meant, because life was hell for me in the religion, pioneering, going where the need was great, going to Bethel nothing I did was good enough. When we were first married and my husband was gone all the time and I do mean all the time doing his elder stuff a CO told me that I was being selfish wanting to spend time with my husband as Jehovah needed him and I could have my husband in the new system which was going to happen any day very soon. That was 25 years ago and I cannot get that time back.
LITS